Show me your habits and I’ll show you your future.
If you were to look back at your diary last year and re-read the goals you set for 2020 are they the same as the goals you’ve just set and likely the year before that?
There are layers to our mind, in simple terms, we have our conscious mind and unconscious mind and if you are writing the same goals that you had last year again, it’s like the unconscious mind is in control of the game.
In our conscious mind, we are making decisions about the actions we would like to take, this is where our goals come into it. The could be related to any area of life – Health, Fitness, Emotional or Financial – Lose 20kgs, run a marathon, get 100 clients just to name a few, stop being depressed – yes that was one of mine recently.
Our habit’s lie within our unconscious mind, so in order to create space for a new habit we have to remove an old habit.
“Where space is created, the void will be filled”
Last year I put on 7kgs, which coincidentally was the average weight put on by Australian’s last year. Our lives were interrupted with working at home meaning we lost incidental exercise in our commute to work and our fridges became the place we went to when we were bored.
The grand nature of our goals can be overwhelming. What if the 7kgs was 15kgs or 20kgs, this seems insurmountable? It is likely that you put that weight on over 20 years so losing it in 1 month is not reasonable, even a year is a tough ask, and slow and steady is the best way to create the change.
I’m going to unpack this as a S.M.A.R.T goal.
Specific – Loose 20kgs.
Measurable – Weight is not a good indicator of change as muscle has a higher density which will result in a lower weight gain and smaller measurements around the waist and thighs. Choose your measurables wisely.
Attainable – How likely is that you will be able to achieve your goals.
Relevant – Here is where you can apply the ‘why’ for the goal. My underlying reason for being in shape is to compete in a kayak race this year (124kms over 2 days), and longer-term, I don’t want to continue putting weight on each year as I want to be a grandfather that is able to play with my grandkids with no restrictions.
Time-based – If you want to lose 20kgs what is a reasonable time frame – 20 months. With monthly checks to see if what you are doing is working and what is not. This allows for changes in the habits that I’ll write about below.
Identifying my habits was a process of writing down what I was doing each hour for 5 days and reviewing the alignment with my goals. The things that showed up consistently allowed me to see patterns and where the opportunity to create a void existed.
This process here allows you to make the unconscious, conscious.
An overview of my habit changes for 2021.
All of these things are tracked in Noble Goldman within the abundance game where, at the end of each week I can see exactly what I have achieved in a chart, which feels amazing to have this visual right in front of me. I believe consistency is the key to our success and this keeps me accountable to myself.
In the book Atomic Habits, the opening line is “small habits create massive change and all of these things are small changes but collectively they have resulted in a number of positive results.”
- My self-confidence has increased.
- I am not having energy crashes post sugar rush.
- I’m feeling stronger.
- My boys have noticed that I’m not eating unhealthy choices.
- Being on Social media less is good for my emotional state.
Another goal of mine was to read more and this is integrated into my morning routine and nightly routine by committing to a 9.30pm bedtime which gives me time to read and wind down off electronics.
The statement “Show me your habits and I’ll show you your future” certainly rings true for me.
What are your big goals and aspirations?
Can you apply the principles of the S.M.A.R.T goals to these goals?
Upon review of your habits, What can you STOP to create space for the new you to START?
With anything in life balance is the key to success, so program in cheat meals for those special occasions. I allow myself an indulgence meal once a fortnight and keep a note in my diary of the things I’ve been craving, which removes the craving through permission.
Be kind to yourself and if you fall off the horse don’t let one day become one month or even one year. Look at that list of goals and get back to it.